Indictment and CaringBridge Matchup

I have gone through Kate’s writings on CaringBridge and I’ve lined up each entry with the corresponding indictment.

COUNT 1

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about April 20, 2007, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that the victim’s date of birth is 03/02/2006 and the offense was reported to a Law Enforcement Agency or the Department of Human Services within the last 12 years.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 2

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about August 13, 2007, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that the victim’s date of birth is 03/02/2006 and the offense was reported to a Law Enforcement Agency or the Department of Human Services within the last 12 years.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this incident. 

COUNT 3

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 01, 2007, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that the victim’s date of birth is 03/02/2006 and the offense was reported to a Law Enforcement Agency or the Department of Human Services within the last 12 years.

Per CaringBridge:

December 8, 2007 9:05 PM PST

However, this past year has been one hospitalization after another. Joshua had 2 Chiari decompressions (April 20th & October 1st), 1 tethered cord release (April 20th), a g-tube placed (August 13th), an emergency laparoscopy to retrieve a piece of the gtube that got lost in his abdominal cavity during a “routine” procedure to change the PEG tube for a Mickey button (both on September 25th) and then another GI procedure to change over the button once more (it was done in the OR just in case the same complication occurred again ~ on December 4th).

COUNT 4

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about February 18, 2008, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that the victim’s date of birth is 03/02/2006 and the offense was reported to a Law Enforcement Agency or the Department of Human Services within the last 12 years.

Per CaringBridge:

February 14, 2008 9:10 PM, PST (Monday would have been February 18th)

Dr. W’s P.A. (Physician’s Assistant) called tonight to chat a bit more about Monday’s surgery. She wanted to answer any questions I had and ensure I understand what the plan is. I figured I’d share what I know.

First, Joshua will continue taking steroids until the surgery. On Monday, Dr. W will open the back of his neck, remove the bone that regrew, place a large dural graft to enlarge the surface area in the hopes that even when Joshua forms excess scar tissue in response to the surgery, he’ll still have room for CSF to flow freely, and she’ll remove the lower portion of his cerebellum; specifically, the portion that keeps getting wedged into his spinal canal (called the cerebellar tonsils). Oh, and she’ll remove all of the scar tissue that has formed, as well as other cellular “debris” that has accumulated.

The surgery is expected to take about 4 hours, but could go longer if there’s more scar tissue than expected or if they run into any unforeseen obstacles. The recovery for this surgery  will be harder and longer than the previous two chiari decompressions. The P.A. told me that with a surgery as aggressive and invasive as Dr. W is planning to do, Joshua will probably feel pretty lousy for several days after surgery and then begin to show signs of improvement. The loss of CSF during the surgery will most likely result in a pretty bad headache and excessive nausea/vomiting.

COUNT 5

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 12, 2008, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

November 12, 2008 9:51 PM PST

Dr. W changed her mind at the last minute about doing the procedure as planned, but I have to believe that God orchestrated that change because Joshua is moving both legs AND he is fully detethered for the first time in his life!!!!!

When Dr. W came out of surgery, she showed me a picture of the bottom of  Joshua’s spinal cord and said she’d gotten him as detethered on the right side as he’s ever been and that no nerve roots had been severed. I asked how the left side had looked (‘cuz remember, she had said she had a hard time believing he could retether in under 6 months) and she admitted he’d had some scarring there, too, but quickly added that it wasn’t a large amount or deeply attached yet.

Later, when we’d gotten Joshua up to his room on the pediatric floor, Dr. W’s assistant, Jenny, came in because she said she had to tell me what had happened. She said that there had been a palpable presence in the operating room today when Dr. W was working on Joshua and that she’d seen Dr. W do some amazing things over the years, but what she witnessed today was beyond incredible. Jenny reminded me how Dr. W hadn’t been able to touch the right side of Joshua’s cord in May because she couldn’t access the scar tissue at all to remove it and that’s how she knew she’d have to paralyze him to get it detethered. However, today, “for some reason”, suddenly Dr. W was able to lift the cord enough to get to the scar tissue in the areas that haven’t been able to be touched since Joshua was born. She could visualize all of the nerve roots as they hung down, surrounded by scar tissue, and she was able to painstakingly remove the scar tissue from each of those nerves. Jenny said it was amazing to watch and that everyone in the room KNEW there was something there… she thought maybe it was angels. I smiled and told her, “It was God,” and I told her how there were literally hundreds of people praying for Joshua today. She said she didn’t doubt it because it was obvious there was a definite presence in the room and the fact that Dr. W had been able to fully detether Joshua’s cord without touching one nerve root was no less than a miracle.

For the first time in his life, Joshua’s spinal cord is free from scar tissue & lipoma and he’s still able to move both of his legs. We don’t yet know the status of his sensation & function because he’s too drugged up. And as for his pain level, it’s nonexistent right now thanks to morphine & fentanyl, but even though Dr. W & Jenny warned that he may still have pain, I am choosing to believe that once Joshua is off pain meds, we’re going to find that he’s not hurting at all because I can’t believe God would answer our prayers of fully detethering Joshua while sparing him of paralysis but not remove the chronic I admit that I was feeling guilty & ashamed of my lack of faith, but when I was asking Him to forgive me, He gave me a deep sense of peace. I realize now that even though Dr. W thought she was doing things her way, God had orchestrated the entire day and everything played out exactly as He intended.

Jenny said the operation was a miracle & beyond incredible. Tonight I am looking at my son, thanking God for His miracle of answered prayer, and feeling incredibly blessed. Thanks to everyone who has prayed for Joshua. Thank you for being a part of the miracle my son received today. To see him move his right leg tonight fills me with a joy I can’t describe. And to know that he was able to be fully detethered without being paralyzed ~ despite that being “impossible, barring a miracle” (to quote Dr. W) ~ fills me with a humble gratitude that the God of the Universe chose to bestow upon Joshua that exact miracle.

COUNT 6

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s). KATHERINE PARKER, on or about Apri! 06, 2009, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

April 6, 2009 3:31 PM PDT

He’s out of surgery. He tolerated it well. It took longer than expected simply because there was a lot of scarring, as always. The anesthesiologist put in 2 IVs so that if one blows (the usual thing with Joshua), we’ll have a backup to use. As long as he’s not here for a long time, it should be fine & he shouldn’t lose both lines.

Dr. W did not do the lumbar puncture to assess for pseudotumor cerebri. She said Joshua had 3 areas on the dural patch that had not scarred over, so he was leaking from 3 areas, not just 1, and thus she feels confident that his symptoms are due to that and not PTC.

I can’t say I feel as confident just because pseudotumor would explain why Joshua doesn’t stay “fixed” for longer than 1-2 months post-operatively. But hey, maybe she’s right & he’ll be okay. We’ll see. Nothing much I can do about it at this He’s not happy about having an IV in his left hand (he’s left-handed), but hopefully he’ll get used to it without too much fuss. Will update more later.

COUNT 7

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about July 07, 2009, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

July 6, 2009 5:57 PM PDT

The neurologist called and we discussed Topamax versus Diamox. She said she’d spoken today with Dr. Wehby and the neurosurgeon gave her conflicting information which had her feeling stuck between a rock & a hard place. Basically, the neurosurgeon is saying that she doesn’t think Joshua’s problems are all due to high pressure & she is unwilling to put in a shunt for pseudotumor cerebri, but she still fully supports conducting a trial of Diamox, which is the medication typically prescribed to treat pseudotumor cerebri (when trying to avoid putting in a shunt). Dr. Huffman (neurologist) said she doesn’t know how she can be expected to prescribe a medication for high CSF pressure without hard proof of that increased pressure. I told her I understood her dilemma, but I couldn’t force Dr. Wehby to do a lumbar puncture in order to give her the evidence of increased pressure.

I believe that when Dr. Wehby told Dr. Huffman that she didn’t think Joshua’s problems were all due to high pressure, she was referring to the assumption that there is an underlying genetic condition causing some of Joshua’s symptoms. I don’t think Dr. Huffman understood that, however. She’s relatively new to Joshua’s team of doctors, though, so I can’t really blame her for not knowing everything about him yet.

I am a bit frustrated with Dr. Wehby, though, because she is not making this easy for Dr. Huffman and she absolutely could have done so by offering to do an LP tomorrow when Dr. Bliss has Joshua knocked out in the OR. I told Dr. Huffman that I didn’t know what to do because as a parent, I have zero power whatsoever. She replied that she wasn’t saying she wouldn’t do a trial of Diamox because she knows Dr. Wehby would like her to do one, but she could really use some hard evidence that the medication is an appropriate one to try. To that end, she is going to contact Joshua’s ophthalmologist tomorrow and get his records transferred up. I told her she wouldn’t find any evidence of papilledema (swelling of the optic nerves) since Joshua’s never had it, but the absence of papilledema did not exclude the presence of PTC in kids who also have chiari malformation.

She also asked if we could get labs drawn tomorrow to get a baseline of Joshua’s electrolytes because Diamox has a serious side effect of messing up the body’s electrolyte levels, as well as paresthesia (the same numbness in hands/feet that Topamax causes), fatigue, decreased sweating and more. I asked if it had the same cognitive side effects that Topamax has and she said, “Not usually.” I told her that if she wanted labs drawn, I knew it wouldn’t be a problem to get them since Joshua will be in the OR and they could get ‘em then, but she’d have to write the orders because no one is going to listen to me.

The conversation ended with the neurologist saying she would touch base with me by the end of the week to discuss which medication she wants to start Joshua on. I’m hopeful that she will choose Diamox because that is typically the medication used to treat pseudotumor cerebri and if I have to put Joshua on something that is going to potentially have a lot of nasty side effects, I’d rather it be the one that ALSO has the potential to help him the greatest amount.

COUNT 8

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 30, 2009, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

November 30, 2009 1:57 PM PST

He’s out of surgery & doing well. Dr. W said his spinal cord was pulled to one side by scar tissue & twisted, which is why he was hurting so much. The shunt was placed at the T12 level, just above where his previous scar ended. The tubing goes around his right side, just above his hip, and he has a tiny incision in his belly. Overall, he looks really good. Thank you for praying for Joshua.

COUNT 9

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 11, 2010, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, a dependent  person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly take charge of BETHANY PARKER, for the purpose of fraud, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • Bethany was adopted on or around this date. See the CaringBridge Post for Count 10.

COUNT 10

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 11, 2010, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of HANNAH PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly take charge of HANNAH PARKER, for the purpose of fraud, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The State further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge:

October 28, 2010 6:51 PM PDT  (October 11 was the approximate date of the girls adoption.)

Joshua’s been having headaches, back pain, increasing vomiting & decreasing ability to digest food, intolerance to being upright for very long at any given time, and his articulation is going downhill, as well, so I took him to a local neurosurgeon to get his shunt setting checked. It was still where it’s supposed to be, so the pediatrician called our neurosurgeon in Portland to ask where she wants new MRIs to be done. They need to be done in Portland, of course, since CINE MRIs can’t be done locally, so Joshua’s appointment is November 10th. We’ll see what’s going on & whether this is a tethered cord issue or a chiari problem. Since Joshua doesn’t want to bend a whole lot, I’m guessing it’s his back, but the scans will show for sure.

Better news to announce is that Joshua is a big brother now! Our family adopted two girls who both have Down syndrome from a Ukrainian orphanage. Charley & I were gone for 5 weeks to get them and we got home 2 weeks ago. Bethany & Hannah are super sweet and Joshua loves having baby sisters. He’s been a great big brother & had no problems adjusting to not being the “baby” anymore

COUNT 11

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 01, 2010, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly withhold necessary and adequate food and physical care from  BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this incident. 

COUNT 12

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 01, 2010, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of HANNAH PARKER, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly withhold necessary and adequate food and physical care from HANNAH PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting  elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this incident. 

COUNT 13

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about December 06, 2010. in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

December 2, 2010 4:28 PM PST

A friend suggested that if I share what’s going on with Joshua in more detail, it would help others to know how better to pray for him. Part of me agrees with that, but another part thinks it shouldn’t matter if everyone knows the nitty-gritty details ~ God does, and if you pray, the Spirit will intercede & that’s enough. I just don’t want to get a million questions because right now, I don’t have a lot of answers, even to the questions I have, myself.

That said, here’s the gist of the situation… I emailed the director of pediatric neurosurgery at UCLA to ask if he would evaluate Joshua’s MRIs for cerebellar ptosis (slumping ~ where the bottom part of the brain sags way down). He wrote back & said he’d be glad to do that & I should mail him Joshua’s MRIs. So I did. Our neurosurgeon in Portland knows I contacted Dr. L & was fine with it. In fact, she welcomed having another opinion weighing in since Joshua is a complicated kid.

The short version of a long story is that we are in a catch-22 position. The LP shunt that Joshua has is causing his chiari to reform (pulling his brain out of his skull). The solution to this problem is to move the LP shunt from Joshua’s back to a VP shunt that would be in his head. Unfortunately, Joshua’s anatomy & propensity for overproducing scar tissue (result of connective tissue disorder) makes it impossible for a shunt to be placed in his head & his neurosurgeon said she can’t/won’t do it. It would be too dangerous. We can’t remove his shunt completely ~ he definitely needs it ~ so we have no choice but to leave it in his back, where it will continue to create a vacuum of sorts (due to lower pressure in his spine than his head) & his cerebellum will continue to be pulled downward & out of his skull. This, obviously, carries great risk as the cerebellum compresses Joshua’s brainstem.

At this point, the only treatment option offered is to go in & do brain surgery any time Joshua becomes severely symptomatic. Unfortunately, we were told at the time of Joshua’s 3rd brain surgery that there were only so many times the doctor could open his head without it eventually leading to a bad outcome.

See why my heart is heavy?

The neurosurgeon at UCLA has conferred with our neurosurgeon in Portland and Charley & I are hopeful that when I see her this next week, she will have a Plan C that has a better long-term prognosis for our son than the other things that have been suggested. At this point, it doesn’t look very good & that is heartbreaking for our Ultimately, I know that God is in control & that He will not take Joshua home until he has fulfilled his purpose here on earth, same as everyone else. My hope & prayer as his mom, though, is that my little boy has many, many, MANY more years that he’s going to be here. I truly cannot fathom a life without him in it.

 COUNT 14

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about January 20, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

January 20, 2011 7:54 AM PST

In about an hour, Bethany will be getting her g-tube & losing her NG tube. She’ll also have an upper GI, with biopsies taken from her esophagus, stomach & intestine to evaluate for H. Pylori, reflux & any other abnormality. If there are no surprises, we will be going home on Saturday. I’ll have been gone from home for 26 days, which is way too long for my comfort level. I hope to never have to be in the hospital with my kid(s) for almost a month again!

Audiology finally got here yesterday to evaluate Bethany’s hearing & found that her ears are so full of fluid she ‘flat lined’ on all of their tests. As a result, she’ll have to come back to get re-checked in 6-8 weeks. That will coincide nicely with Bethany’s need to return to get her PEG tube changed over to a mic-key button (for her g-tube) & her follow-up with her rheumatologist and Joshua’s follow-up with his neurosurgeon. I’ll schedule the 4 appointments over 2 days, which will make it a quick trip up here.

Not much else to report right now, but I’ll update later, after Bethany’s procedures.

 COUNT 15

ASSAULT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about April 25, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, intentionally and knowingly cause serious physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, a child under six years of age, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.  The state further alleges that the above-named victim did not substantially contribute to the commission of the above-described offense by precipitating the attack.

Per CaringBridge:

July 26, 2011, 11:45 PM PST

….He isn’t having any big apnea episodes at this time, but we’re not really surprised by that. He had apnea & bradycardia that began sporadically at the end of December & progressed to respiratory failure in the middle of April. He had major brain surgery on April 25th that removed the pressure by his cerebellar tonsil against his brain stem & halted the apnea/bradycardia (A’s & B’s). Historically, Joshua has regrown bone & scarred over from a chiari surgery in 4-6 months, so no one will be surprised if he begins having regular apnea issues in the near future, although right now his apnea & bradycardia are sporadic & often positional (such as if his head is tilted at a specific angle). Joshua’s hospice nurse has reminded us, too, that with his brain stem dysfunction, he could theoretically go into respiratory failure at any time simply because his brain stem stops working permanently. Basically, what is anticipated is that either Joshua will have a build-up of pressure caused by scar tissue blocking the path of cerebrospinal fluid & that pressure will compress his brain stem, resulting in ever-increasing pain and A’s & B’s, which will eventually cause respiratory and/or heart failure, OR his intrinsically-dysfunctional brain stem will stop working suddenly & cause respiratory and/or heart failure. We are all hoping & praying that we get some warning versus having a sudden episode, but it could happen either way.

COUNT 16

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about April 25, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

April 21, 2011 7:25 PM PDT

Joshua will have a 5th chiari surgery either tomorrow or Monday (don’t know which day yet). The neurosurgeon did not agree with the radiologist’s assessment that the MRI was okay, so we discussed her doing this last surgery. No one really expects that it’s going to help, but everyone involved in making these decisions agrees that if we don’t do the only thing that has a chance of maybe stabilizing Joshua for awhile (and thus giving him more time here with us), we will all regret it. No one involved wants to look back & wonder, “Would that last chiari surgery have made a difference? Maybe it would have helped……” So yeah, it’s pretty much a ‘last-ditch-so-we-all-know-we-did-everything-we-could-and-no-one-has-to-look-back-with-regret’ surgery, but we’re doing it.

The care conference will be held after Joshua’s surgery (not necessarily the same day, but sometime before he’s ready to be discharged). I had a consult with the pain management doctor today & he had many ideas for getting Joshua’s pain under control, which was a huge relief to hear. We’ll be talking more after the surgery. I’ll share more about what the plan for pain management is once I know specifics. Right now, I’m just relieved that someone is going to make sure Joshua doesn’t hurt.

April 25, 2011 5:11 PM PDT

Surgery is over and went as well as it could. Dr. W said the inside of Joshua’s head was a mess, with regrown bone and a bunch of scar tissue everywhere. She cauterized his cerebellar tonsil way up and off his brain stem, which should help him. I am relieved surgery is over… now to get him recovered and out of here so we can get ready for his Make A Wish trip on June! I will update more after I get to see my boy. Thanks for the prayers and well-wishes.

COUNT 17

FELONY COMPUTER CRIME

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about July 22, 2011, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine. State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly access and use a computer, computer system, and computer network for the purpose of devising and executing a scheme or artifice to defraud; and for obtaining money or property by means of false or fraudulent pretenses or representations; and for committing theft, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • See the CaringBridge post on Count 18.

COUNT 18

IDENTITY THEFT

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about July 22, 2011, In the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, with intent to deceive and defraud, obtain, possess, transfer, create, utter and convert to defendant’s own use personal identification of JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge:

 July 20, 2011, 11:45 PM PST

This will be a tough post for me to write because it involves humbling myself, asking for help, and opening myself to potentially being insulted by people who misunderstand my motives.  However, desperate times call for desperate measures, so here I go:

My family needs financial help.  Charley needs to take a few weeks off work (via FMLA) & because we’ve had a very tough year already (114 days inpatient between Joshua & Bethany in the past 8 months), he has no sick leave or vacation time left, and we no longer have any financial reserves.  This time off is not a “want”; it is most definitely a “need”.  For all of Joshua’s life, Charley has worked a job that requires him to be gone 60+ hours per week, but provides excellent medical insurance.  He has not gone to the hospital when Joshua has had surgeries because he has had to work.  He’s been a good provider for our family & has worked hard to ensure that Joshua is taken care of. Now, however, he is feeling completely overwhelmed with trying to simultaneously deal with working so many hours each week while coping with the knowledge that his son is dying.  He is emotionally distraught.  He has no down time to process any of this.  He isn’t able to be here when Joshua is awake to spend time with him.  He & I have almost zero time together anymore & that is challenging our marriage at a time when we need each other the most.

This afternoon, I got home from taking Bethany & Hannah to the orthotist to get casted for their AFOs & David to the orthodontist to get his retainer (he got his braces off on Monday) right before Charley left for work.  He asked if I would come talk to him for a minute while he got ready and when I sat down, he fell apart, telling me that he just can’t do this anymore.  “This” being working while dealing with Joshua’s decline.  He knows he can’t quit & he wouldn’t do that, but he is standing on the edge of a gaping hole & trying desperately to avoid falling in.  I completely understand how he’s feeling ~ there are days when I feel like I can’t handle anything and all I have to do is take care of the kids, not leave home to go to a job for 12 hours & pretend that everything is fine!  I understand that my husband feels he’s missed out on so much of Joshua’s life & he wants the chance to spend some time with his little boy before Joshua dies.  But without his income, we couldn’t make it, and without a way to cover his income, he can’t take a leave of absence from work.  He needs time off to regain his mental balance & to make some memories with Joshua before it’s too late.

Many people have said to let them know if there is anything they can do to help.  Now I have an answer for that offer. If you want to help in a tangible way during this very difficult time, please make a donation to my paypal account (kpmomof7@yahoo.com ~ if you click the “gift” tab, paypal won’t take out any fees) to help us raise money so that Charley can take a short leave of absence from his job.

Through Joshua’s 25 surgeries & hospitalizations & everything else he’s gone through, I’ve never asked for help.  I have never wanted anyone to accuse me of profiting from my child’s medical condition and I don’t want to be accused of that now.  If the situation were not desperate, I would not be writing this post.  It is, though, so I am.  If you want to help, please send a gift through paypal.  I will be grateful beyond anything I can put into words if you do.  If you don’t want to help and/or think it’s terrible of me to ask for financial assistance from people online, that’s fine.  My only request of you is that you keep your opinion to yourself.  I also hope you never find yourself in a situation that would make you need to rely on the kindness of strangers to get through.  It’s easy to judge negatively when you haven’t stood in this place, too.
Thank you.

COUNT 19

FELONY COMPUTER CRIME

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about July 28, 2011, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly access and use a computer, computer system, and computer network for the purpose of devising and executing a scheme or artifice to defraud; and for obtaining money or properly by means of false or fraudulent pretenses or representations; and for committing theft, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • See the CaringBridge post on Count 20.

COUNT 20

IDENTITY THEFT

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about July 28, 2011, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, with intent to deceive and defraud, obtain, possess, transfer, create, utter and convert to defendant’s own use personal identification of JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such eases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge:

 July 28, 2011,  12:11 AM PST

It never fails ~ if I post that Joshua is doing relatively well, he has a lousy day.  Last night was rough, with him having multiple episodes of apnea prior to going to sleep & then bradycardia almost all night long.  It got to the point that I turned off his pulse ox because the alarm kept going off despite my having the heart rate set to alarm very low.

He slept until 1:40pm today & woke with a headache.  He has complained of head pain throughout the day, but thankfully has responded to a combination of lortab & dilaudid each time (on top of his fentanyl patches, which deliver medication constantly).

I had three people contact me today (one via email, one via chat on Facebook & one in person) to suggest/urge me to move Joshua’s half-birthday party up to August 2nd rather than his true half-birthday date of September 2nd.  After talking with Charley, we agreed it was probably a wise move to make.  If September comes & Joshua is able & interested in having another little party, we can do that, but we would really regret waiting if that doesn’t happen.  We’re moving it to a week from Saturday (August 6th) on the assumption that more people can attend on a weekend than a weekday.

Oops, I need to go take care of my boy… please continue praying for him & for our family as we immerse ourselves in making memories every day.  Please pray for many, many, MANY more GOOD days for us to do just that.  We are nowhere near ready to give him back to the Lord & it is our hope that we won’t have to anytime soon.

COUNT 21

ASSAULT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 03, 2011, in the County of Multnomah and Jackson, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, intentionally and knowingly cause serious physical injury to HANNAH PARKER, a child under six years of age, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.  The state further alleges that the above-named victim did not substantially contribute to the commission of the above-described offense by precipitating the attack. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge:

 December 6, 2011, 5:56 AM PST

….Hannah got her g-tube on November 2nd, the day I went to Portland with Joshua. A local surgeon did the operation because our pediatrician was trying to make things easier for me by not having to deal with taking Hannah to Portland since Joshua was going to be having another risky brain surgery & she knew I really was not mentally or emotionally capable of dealing with both kids in the hospital at the same time again (I’ve already done it twice this year).

Also, we knew Hannah would only be in the hospital overnight & Joshua would be there for awhile, so it would have been difficult to have Hannah there. SO! She had the g-tube surgery but instead of doing an endoscopic procedure to place a PEG tube or an open procedure to place a mic-key button, the surgeon did an open abdominal surgery & put in a latex foley catheter, size 8 french. Ignoring the fact that Joshua has a latex allergy, so having a latex tube in our house wasn’t going to be good, the fact that the doctor placed such a tiny tube meant that Hannah could not be fed any other way except continuously, via pump.

So now we have a 2 year old who can’t crawl anywhere because she’s attached to a pump on an IV pole so she can be fed all day. Oh, and the tube hanging out is dropping latex proteins on every surface it touches as shetries to move around. Obviously not a good scenario, so Hannah has had to spend a huge amount of time in her high chair, which is not helping her already-profoundly-delayed development at all.

When I came home, I had to immediately take her back to the surgeon to ask him how he planned to fix this problem ~ I mean, how do you get a 14-french mic-key button through a tract that is the size of an 8-french tube (or, for those who have no idea what I’m talking about, picture trying to push your index finger into a hole the diameter of a pencil)?

The other complication here is that since he used a regular foley catheter instead of a PEG tube, the tube laid on its side the entire time it has been healing, so now the tract between Hannah’s stomach& her skin is slanted, which is going to make placing a mic- key difficult (mic-key buttons are supposed to go in perpendicular to the skin, not at an angle).

The doctor told me he’d “do his best” to get a mic-key placed & that he’d take Hannah back to the operating room to try and get it done. If he can’t do it, I’ll have to take Hannah to Portland to have our pediatric gastroenterologist either fix the other doctor’s work or re-do it entirely. So this “easy” g-tube surgery has turned into a mess. It has reminded me why I go through the effort of driving 250 miles to take my kids to pediatric specialists.

Sometimes, someone trying to make my life easier backfires spectacularly. Unfortunately, this was one of those times. I am so grateful to my kids’ pediatrician for trying. It’s not her fault that things have turned out this way & I’m not upset with her. I am, however, peeved with the surgeon who dang well should have known how to put in a flipping mic-key button & call it a day & who KNEW I had a son with a latex allergy & therefore did not want him using anything with latex on Hannah & had told me at her pre-op appointment that he would not! Truth be told, I’m also frustrated that this piddly little procedure, which I know from experience with Joshua & Bethany SHOULD be no big deal, has not been easy for Hannah, and I feel guilty for not taking her to Portland& having it done right the first time….

COUNT 22

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 03, 2011, in the County of Multnomah and Jackson, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of HANNAH PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to HANNAH PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon, The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 23

ASSAULT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 03, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, intentionally and knowingly cause serious physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, a child under six years of age, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon, The state further alleges that the above-named victim did not substantially contribute to the commission of the above-described offense by precipitating the attack.

  • See the CaringBridge post on Count 24.

COUNT 24

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 03, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical Injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

October 31, 2011, 9:48 PM PST

There are times when things are so insanely overwhelming that it’s ridiculous & I lose the ability to feel stressed-out because, quite honestly, I simply shut my emotions off.

This is one of those times.

Joshua’s hanging in & as long as I dose him with narcotics every 2 hours without delay, his pain level stays manageable.  He’s scheduled to see Dr. W on Thursday afternoon & surgery is tentatively scheduled for Monday, November 7th.  I did miss a phone call from the surgery scheduler today, though (I had Hannah at an appointment with her surgeon), so I’m not sure if something has changed.  I’ll let you know when I find out.

Bethany’s gotten more ill despite being on steroids to control her arthritis flare & her doctors are growing increasingly concerned.  Her labwork today was worse than last Friday’s, so she’ll go in tomorrow to get more blood drawn & get cathed for another urinalysis to see if anything grows out in either culture.  The concern is that she may have an infection that we’re missing (aside from the MRSA blister on her finger, which we’ve been treating aggressively since last week) in addition to the JRA flare. If she does not show improvement soon, she will be airlifted to Portland for treatment.

Hannah’s scheduled to get a g-tube on Wednesday.  Charley will be checking her in at our local hospital at the same time I am checking Joshua in for his MRI in Portland.  Her tube can’t be placed via endoscope like Joshua & Bethany’s were, so she’ll have a larger incision as her surgeon goes through her belly to her stomach instead of using laparoscopic procedure.  We are hoping this can be an outpatient surgery & the surgeon said that as long as Hannah’s pain is being managed satisfactorily, he saw no reason we would have to keep her in the hospital overnight since we obviously have a lot of experience with g-tubes & would know what to do.  In other Hannah news, we’re still waiting for the results of her genetics testing to see if her big regression/neurological changes are caused by some genetic condition.

The thought that Bethany may wind up flown to Portland at the same time Joshua is facing the most-serious brain surgery of his life makes me shake my head in a “You have GOT to be kidding me!” way.  But hey, I started 2011 with both Joshua & Bethany in the hospital, so why not end 2011 the same way, right?  (yes, I’m employing my sarcasm font)  I don’t know what purpose there is in having 3 of my kids seriously ill or compromised at the same time.  I can’t really wrap my mind around any of this anymore.  My priority has to be Joshua, followed extremely closely by Bethany, and Hannah bringing up the rear.  As for my other 6 kids who, thankfully, are healthy, all I can do is hug them, love them & pray they understand that this crazy time isn’t going to last forever.  It can’t, right?

COUNT 25

ASSAULT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 07, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, intentionally and knowingly cause serious physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, a child under six years of age, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that the above-named victim did not substantially contribute to the commission of the above-described offense by precipitating the attack.

  • See the CaringBridge post on Count 26.

COUNT 26

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 07, 2011, in the County of Multnomah, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of JOSHUA PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly cause physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.

Per CaringBridge:

November 4, 2011, 7:30 PM PST

Our Dynamic Duo (neurosurgeon & her P.A.) came in again & said that if Joshua’s headache isn’t improved by Monday, they will take him to the OR to put in a VP shunt, which they will externalize (keep outside his head). They’ll drain off fluid and if it helps, they’ll take him back to the OR a 3rd time to internalize the entire shunt system. If it does not help, they’ll remove the shunt & call it a day. Dr. W told Joshua that she got one of the balls out of his head, but it seems he has two in there, so she has to go get the other one out in a few more days. He nodded & seemed satisfied with that.

November 7, 2011, 10:19 AM PST

At about 1pm, Dr. W will be taking Joshua to the OR to do a ventriculostomy with an ICP monitor. The pressure will be monitored for a day or two & if draining extra fluid helps, a VP shunt will be put in. If today’s procedure doesn’t help, the monitor will be pulled, the dura stitched shut & we’ll talk with Joshua’s pain management doctor for ideas for better pain control before we come home. So… please pray this helps Joshua with his pain and the “ball in his head” feeling and that he comes through the surgery without any difficulty.  I’ll update later this afternoon.

 COUNT 27

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about August 01, 2012, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, In violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of HANNAH PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly leave HANNAH PARKER unattended at a place for a period of time that was likely to endanger the health and welfare of HANNAH PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 28

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about August 01, 2012, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly leave BETHANY PARKER unattended at a place for a period of time that was likely to endanger the health and welfare of BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 29

ABANDONMENT OF A CHILD

The said defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 01, 2012, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly desert HANNAH PARKER, a child under the age of fifteen years, with the intent of abandoning HANNAH PARKER, the defendant being the mother of HANNAH PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such eases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

This apparently refers to Hannah’s Re-Homing. Here is what was mentioned in CaringBridge:

November 5, 2012 10:03 PM PST

….And, as many of you have figured out & a few have asked about, one of the girls my family adopted is conspicuously absent. I am not going to get into the nitty gritty details simply because I have enough going on without being labeled selfish & incapable of loving an orphan & all the other hateful things that people (typically in the adoption community) spout off to mothers who make choices they disagree with, but I will share that at the recommendation of our pediatrician, Hannah is in long-term respite care where she can receive the therapy & behavioral intervention that she needs & our intention is to let the family that has her adopt her from us. That is why I claim 8 children, not 9.

If you think I suck for giving up one of my adopted kids, keep it to yourself. Any negative comment will be deleted by a friend who will be moderating comments for me in order to ensure I don’t have to read any nastiness. There are very few people reading this journal who have a true understanding of what we were living with before putting Hannah in respite care, but those who do understand completely support our decision. If you want to throw stones, please drive to your nearest river & have at it, but leave me alone. Thanks….

COUNT 30

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about November 01, 2012, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of HANNAH PARKER, a dependent person, did unlawfully and intentionally desert HANNAH PARKER in a place with the intent to abandon HANNAH PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • See the CaringBridge posts on Count 29.

COUNT 31

FELONY COMPUTER CRIME

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about January 22, 2013, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly access and use a computer, computer system, and computer network for the purpose of devising and executing a scheme or artifice to defraud; and for obtaining money or property by means of false or fraudulent pretenses or representations; and for committing theft, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • See the CaringBridge post on Count 32.

COUNT 32

IDENTITY THEFT

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about January 22, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, with intent to deceive and defraud, obtain, possess, transfer, create, utter and convert to defendant’s own use personal identification of BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge:

January 21, 2013, 11:43 PM PST

The appointment with the rheumatologist was long & grueling & serious & sad. At the end of it all, the prognosis for Bethany is unchanged. The treatment for arthritis negatively affects Bethany’s diseased lungs and compromised heart and her bone marrow is extremely distressed by the treatment she has endured for the past 2 years. This is a no-win situation, similar to what we encountered with Joshua insofar as having multiple medical conditions that do not interact well with each other.

It is predicted that she will die from congestive heart failure as a side effect of treatment for her uncontrolled rheumatological disease (as she has experienced 3 bouts of CHF in the past 5 weeks). We are accepting the reality of this situation, just as we did when we learned that there were no more good options for Joshua, and just as we opted to focus on keeping Joshua comfortable and supporting him for however long his body would allow him to continue living, we will do the same for Bethany and focus on keeping her comfortable for the rest of her life.

COUNT 33

FELONY COMPUTER CRIME

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about August 06, 2013, in the Counties of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly access and use a computer, computer system, and computer network for the purpose of devising and executing a scheme or artifice to defraud; and for obtaining money or property by means of false or fraudulent pretenses or representations; and for committing theft, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon, The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • See the CaringBridge post on Count 34.

COUNT 34

IDENTITY THEFT

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about August 06, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully, with intent to deceive and defraud, obtain, possess, transfer, create, utter and convert to defendant’s own use personal Identification of JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge

Here’s how to help!!

August 6, 2013 2:01 PM PST (Written by Kate Estes)

This is Kate Estes – Kate Parker is a very dear friend of mine and I asked for permission to “hijack” her page to post some things.

A lot of people have been asking in comments, on FB, etc. how they can help the Parker family right now.  Kate has never been one who is quick to ask for help and has been at a loss as to what to tell people.  I spoke with her the other day and I suggested some things that might be a blessing to her family right now.  (I also have a terminally ill son, so I’ve got a pretty good idea of the things that can help in a situation like this!)

If you’d like to do something to tangibly bless this precious family, here are a few suggestions:

1.  Joshua is very clingy right now and it’s important that Kate be able to spend every possible moment at his side while she still can.  It would be a blessing for her to know that dinner is taken care of.  They live in a pretty rural area, but here is a list of restaurants in their town:
Burger King
Taco Bell
Domino’s
Sonic
Applebee’s
Pizza Hut
Dairy Queen
Arby’s
KFC
Papa Murphy’s
Quizno’s
Subway
Si Casa Flores
Abby’s Pizza

It is a simple thing to purchase a gift card online and have it mailed or delivered electronically.  I know that several of these restaurants will do electronic gift cards (Domino’s, Pizza Hut, Quizno’s, maybe others).  Gift cards can be ordered for Abby’s Pizza by going to http://www.abbys.com.

I know from experience that it is a HUGE thing to have someone take care of dinner when you are exhausted and grieving!!!

2. It would also be a help to get gift cards to Walmart, Albertson’s, or Safeway.  This would allow them to shop for groceries or other needed items.  I know that Kate is a very careful shopper but the blessing of a grocery gift card is that she might feel a bit more free to buy “convenience” types of foods like frozen entrees that would need little to no meal prep.  A generic pre-loaded Visa or Mastercard gift card could be used at any of these stores, for gas, etc.

3.  I have set up a fundraiser for the Parker family at https://www.youcaring.com/other/help-joshua-s-family/77235.  This money will NOT be touched until after Joshua passes away.  Joshua’s dad is only given 3 days of paid bereavement leave from work and I would LOVE to see the entire family able to be together to support each other during what will be the hardest days of their lives.  The purpose of this fundraiser is to raise enough money for Joshua’s dad to take four weeks of unpaid leave.  Please know that every single donation helps – if you can’t afford a meal card, please consider giving even $5 to this fund.  I know that all of you can afford to share this and I am asking you to do so.

I want to share that Kate was very concerned that people might think that they were trying to profit off of Joshua’s illness/death.  I think anyone who knows her at all recognizes that nothing could be further from the truth!!  The entire family is extremely thankful for the support they were offered a couple of years ago when Joshua’s death seemed imminent .  We’re all so thankful that the doctors were able to do some surgeries back then to give the Parkers more time with their dear son, but there are no more tricks for the doctors to pull out of their hats.  Joshua is eating and drinking only the barest amounts (adding up to mere bites and sips per day) and all of the doctors have said that he is very, very near to the end of his battle.  Like I said, this money will not be touched until he passes away.

The Parker family has not asked for any of this – these were things that I suggested to Kate.  They have done all they can to set money aside for this, but between prepaying for all of the funeral expenses and dealing with medical bills, it has been difficult.  I KNOW that if we all give a little, we can get some meals into their hands and get this bereavement leave covered!!

Electronic gift cards can be emailed to kpmomof7@yahoo.com and physical cards can be mailed to The Parker Family, PO Box 1546, Grants Pass, OR 97528

Thank you for the way you’ve supported this amazing family in the past.  Please continue to keep them in your prayers and please see what you might be able to do to help with these other needs.

Blessings,
Kate

COUNT 35

RECKLESSLY ENDANGERING ANOTHER PERSON

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about August 28, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and recklessly create a substantial risk of serious physical injury to JOSHUA PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such eases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

Per CaringBridge:

August 27, 2013m 5:31 PM PST

This is Kate Parker’s friend, AKA “the other Kate.” I just got off the phone with Kate and she asked me to update you guys on what is going on. In a nutshell:

– The hospice director from the hospice that was supposed to admit Joshua today has said that he is “too complicated” for hospice and they won’t admit him. Seriously.

– Their pediatrician is willing to manage Joshua’s continuing care BUT needs someone willing to make the suggestions and recommendation for her. This isn’t a negative or unusual thing. Pediatricians just don’t typically see many children with these types of overwhelming needs and they rely on palliative care doctors, pain specialists, hospice doctors, etc. to guide them. With hospice bailing, Dr. S has no backup or guidance.

– Joshua is being admitted to the PICU in Portland tomorrow morning. He’s being direct admitted by an AWESOME intensivist who was willing to step in today when pretty much no one else could or would. The hope of all involved is to get Joshua’s meds optimized and write a very comprehensive plan for the pediatrician so that Joshua can come home under Dr. S’s care.

– While this sounds good on paper, the Parker family has been told that it is highly likely that Joshua will die in Portland. This is horrific – for the family not to be there, for Kate to have to drive 4 hours home and leave him in a hospital morgue, etc. I’m also the mom of a terminally ill little boy – trust me when I say this is the stuff that nightmares are made of.

– For Joshua to come home, the doctors will need to be willing to make a VERY detailed flow chart covering every possible symptom and contingency. He also needs to be stable enough to survive the 4 hour drive home.

Obviously Kate doesn’t have time to write this update herself. This family really, really needs your prayers. They do NOT need your advice or suggestions. I KNOW this situation is just insane, and I know it’s appalling that hospice would take this approach. Kate knows this too. Our own hospice nurse was here when I got the call from Kate, and she was appalled. Having said that, right now Kate’s time and emotional energy need to be treated with respect. She’d love to hear that you are praying for her, but please don’t leave comments suggesting that they try this thing or that thing. Their pediatrician literally told them that she’d gotten no sleep all weekend trying to think of different options and There. Are. None. right now.

I’m also going to make a plea here (Kate did NOT ask for this) for any sort of tangible support you can give this family right now. They will be in a huge city and could use ANY restaurant gift cards – many restaurants do electronic gift cards and you can have these sent straight to Kate’s email. She’s trying to work it out so Adam and Faith can come up with her – when you’ve got a child in PICU, it’s nearly impossible to get to the bathroom much less take a shower or eat if you don’t have someone else there to help. Adam can be a go-fer and get food for Kate but I know that it would be a tremendous help to have some assistance in this area. Even a Walmart or Target card can be very, very helpful.

Of course, please be holding them all in prayer. The children being left at home are going to have to say good-bye to Joshua tomorrow knowing they may never see him alive. Kate is having to drive over 4 hours with a hurting child who doesn’t usually even wake up for the day until mid-afternoon. There will be nothing pleasant or easy about ANY of this. Please pray your hearts out that this doctor will be moved with compassion and willing to do whatever it takes to get Joshua home to his family right away.

Thank you for your support of this precious family. Kate is a dear, dear friend and I appreciate your love for them more than I can say.

Blessings,
“the other Kate”

COUNT 36

TAMPERING WITH A WITNESS

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about September 11, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly induce and attempt to induce EMILY PARKER, a witness and person whom the said defendant believed might be called as a witness in an official proceeding, to offer false testimony, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon, The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 37

TAMPERING WITH A WITNESS

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about September 11, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly induce and attempt to induce SARAH PARKER, a witness and person whom the said defendant believed might be called as a witness in an official proceeding, to offer false testimony, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 38

TAMPERING WITH A WITNESS

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about September 11, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly induce and attempt to induce DAVID PARKER, a witness and person whom the said  defendant believed might be called as a witness in an official proceeding, to offer false testimony, contrary to die statutes in such eases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 39

TAMPERING WITH A WITNESS

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about September II, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly induce and attempt to induce ISAAC PARKER, a witness and person whom the said defendant believed might be called as a witness in an official proceeding, to offer false testimony, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 40

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 01, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly withhold necessary and adequate physical care and medical attention from BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon.  The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 41

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 01, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly withhold necessary and adequate physical care and medical attention from BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such eases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event.

COUNT 42

CRIMINAL MISTREATMENT IN THE FIRST DEGREE

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 01, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, in violation of a legal duty to provide care for and having assumed the care, custody and responsibility for the supervision of BETHANY PARKER, did unlawfully and intentionally and knowingly withhold necessary and adequate physical care and medical attention from BETHANY PARKER, contrary to the statutes in such eases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event. Bethany’s CaringBridge was closed down at this point in time.

COUNT 43

TAMPERING WITH A WITNESS

The said Defendant(s), KATHERINE PARKER, on or about October 29, 2013, in the County of Multnomah and Josephine, State of Oregon, did unlawfully and knowingly induce and attempt to induce KATE ESTES, a witness and person whom the said defendant believed might be called as a witness in an official proceeding, to offer false testimony, contrary to the statutes m such cases made and provided and against the peace and dignity of the State of Oregon. The state further alleges that conduct or results constituting elements of the offense occurred in Multnomah County.

  • There are no CaringBridge posts concerning this event. Both Joshua’s and Bethany’s CaringBridge sites were closed down at this point in time. 

 

 

 

 

7 thoughts on “Indictment and CaringBridge Matchup

  1. OMG. The neurosurgeon, Dr. Monica Webhy, is running for office. The primary for the US Senate seat will be held next month. Oh, this is going to be messy.

  2. Pingback: An Overview of the Charges | The Truth About KP MOM OF 7,8,9

  3. For count 1 & 2 you have no CB post connected but if you look at the post for Count 3 it all covers the procedures & dates attached to 1 & 2.

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